There are times when it is necessary to really shake things up in a relationship. You will know when the time is right for that sort of thing. Practicing the tips recommended here are good for any relationship, anytime... Try to start by putting yourself in your partners place. Imagine that you live with you... Would you be happy? Would you find it stimulating, rewarding and wonderful. If you can answer yes - Good for you! Now get real... Isn't there something you would want you to do a bit differently? Try to imagine what doing that one thing differently would mean to your relationship. Read through the following tips and really think about what doing them would mean to your spouse or partner. Could you do these things? Would it really be so hard? What would be the benefits? Are there really any negatives? Honestly? Just give it a try and let me know how it works for you.
Instructions:
1Learn to laugh with your partner - Find out what they think is funny - you probably knew at one time. Make a point to be light and upbeat. Suspend dark or disruptive thoughts. You may find that once you put them aside, they won't seem so important.
2Remember to Flirt.Flirt with your lover. Smile, Wink, Give massages, and touch for no reason. All of us humans are hardwired to want to be touched. Make sure your partner gets plenty of touching. Hold hands, rub feet, hug, and touch their arm when you speak with them. Give them your full attention. Laugh together. Make a point of smiling. Some of us are naturally more demonstrative than others but remember - this person is the one you picked to be the most important person in your life. Make sure they feel that way. You may think they know that you love them - Tell Them! (with a smile - let them know you are glad they are in your life).
3Go on regular dates - no kids - no business - no talk of kids, business, budgets, old troubles - Be on your best behavior. Practice good manners. Open doors, pull out chairs, say please and thank you. Talk about the game rules beforehand. You should both try to participate in a Date Evening. It may take a few tries to get it right. Do not give up. You both deserve to have special time together. This is one of the most important steps to refresh your relationship.
4Sexy lingerie can really spice up a relationship.Pay attention to grooming - shave, get a haircut, use plenty of lotion. It is easy to let some of those concerns go after you have been together for a while. Put cleanliness, smelling good, soft skin, fresh breath high on your list of priorities. Make an effort to impress your partner as you did when you were first together. Ladies think about wearing some sexy lingerie. Men (and ladies) think about giving your woman some lovely, provocative lingerie. It all helps to set the mood. Whether you chose something slinky or a bit kinky - like leather or vinyl - the stage is set for a wonderfully romantic event.
5Concentrate on pleasuring your partner. Spend a selfless evening on a regular basis. Schedule it and make it happen. Spend time putting their needs first. You will find you win in the end. Make a point of laughing at their jokes. When it is time to make love, lay them down and do all the things you would love to have someone do for you. Make sure they feel really good. For this one night, it is not about you. It is all about pleasing and pleasuring your lover.
6Practice Kindness. We slip into habits. Maybe we criticize or point out flaws. Remember what kindness feels like and spread it around. This is a good idea for much of life. Reach for that warm feeling you get when you feel kindly towards something or someone. You will find it is like a muscle - the more you work it the stronger it gets and the easier it is to use. The world would be a much better place if we all made a point of practicing a bit more kindness. Make a point of expecting the best of folks.
7 Dress for Success!Set the mood. For a romantic dinner - clean house. Make an attractive as well as a tasty meal. Light candles, Turn down the lights. Turn off the television. Dress up (maybe wear sexy underwear to reveal later). Consider flowers. For sex: make sure your bedroom is clean and as attractive as you can make it. A messy room is a romance killer. Put on clean sheets. Arrange for soft music. Ladies - play up your part - if it is feminine: wear pearls, dress the part (no jeans or sweats - a dress or nice slacks with sexy underwear is just the thing). - if your part it is masculine: make a point of looking handsome (again, no jeans or sweats - a nice clean shirt or sweater and nice slacks... a jacket wouldn't hurt
8Forget about who is right and wrong in the relationship - Put all of those troubling thoughts out of your mind just for the evening - you'll find it easier and easier to do once you get started
9Surprise your partner - Something completely unexpected - chocolates, flowers, lingerie, a romantic game. I bought my partner a glass dildo. Now that was a surprise. It doesn't have to be expensive but it should be completely out of the norm.
10Think about what made you fall in love in the first place. There was something about your partner that made you pick them. That is still there. Remember it and make a point of appreciating it. It is very easy to fall into routines with our partners. Make a point of thinking about their specialness. Tell them about it. "You know, I love it when you --------- '
Powerd by - eHow.com
