2011-02-05
Valentine’s Day sex
2011-01-08
How to Have A Better Sex Life
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There are times when it is necessary to really shake things up in a relationship. You will know when the time is right for that sort of thing. Practicing the tips recommended here are good for any relationship, anytime... Try to start by putting yourself in your partners place. Imagine that you live with you... Would you be happy? Would you find it stimulating, rewarding and wonderful. If you can answer yes - Good for you! Now get real... Isn't there something you would want you to do a bit differently? Try to imagine what doing that one thing differently would mean to your relationship. Read through the following tips and really think about what doing them would mean to your spouse or partner. Could you do these things? Would it really be so hard? What would be the benefits? Are there really any negatives? Honestly? Just give it a try and let me know how it works for you.
Instructions:
1Learn to laugh with your partner - Find out what they think is funny - you probably knew at one time. Make a point to be light and upbeat. Suspend dark or disruptive thoughts. You may find that once you put them aside, they won't seem so important.
2Remember to Flirt.Flirt with your lover. Smile, Wink, Give massages, and touch for no reason. All of us humans are hardwired to want to be touched. Make sure your partner gets plenty of touching. Hold hands, rub feet, hug, and touch their arm when you speak with them. Give them your full attention. Laugh together. Make a point of smiling. Some of us are naturally more demonstrative than others but remember - this person is the one you picked to be the most important person in your life. Make sure they feel that way. You may think they know that you love them - Tell Them! (with a smile - let them know you are glad they are in your life).
3Go on regular dates - no kids - no business - no talk of kids, business, budgets, old troubles - Be on your best behavior. Practice good manners. Open doors, pull out chairs, say please and thank you. Talk about the game rules beforehand. You should both try to participate in a Date Evening. It may take a few tries to get it right. Do not give up. You both deserve to have special time together. This is one of the most important steps to refresh your relationship.
4Sexy lingerie can really spice up a relationship.Pay attention to grooming - shave, get a haircut, use plenty of lotion. It is easy to let some of those concerns go after you have been together for a while. Put cleanliness, smelling good, soft skin, fresh breath high on your list of priorities. Make an effort to impress your partner as you did when you were first together. Ladies think about wearing some sexy lingerie. Men (and ladies) think about giving your woman some lovely, provocative lingerie. It all helps to set the mood. Whether you chose something slinky or a bit kinky - like leather or vinyl - the stage is set for a wonderfully romantic event.
5Concentrate on pleasuring your partner. Spend a selfless evening on a regular basis. Schedule it and make it happen. Spend time putting their needs first. You will find you win in the end. Make a point of laughing at their jokes. When it is time to make love, lay them down and do all the things you would love to have someone do for you. Make sure they feel really good. For this one night, it is not about you. It is all about pleasing and pleasuring your lover.
6Practice Kindness. We slip into habits. Maybe we criticize or point out flaws. Remember what kindness feels like and spread it around. This is a good idea for much of life. Reach for that warm feeling you get when you feel kindly towards something or someone. You will find it is like a muscle - the more you work it the stronger it gets and the easier it is to use. The world would be a much better place if we all made a point of practicing a bit more kindness. Make a point of expecting the best of folks.
7 Dress for Success!Set the mood. For a romantic dinner - clean house. Make an attractive as well as a tasty meal. Light candles, Turn down the lights. Turn off the television. Dress up (maybe wear sexy underwear to reveal later). Consider flowers. For sex: make sure your bedroom is clean and as attractive as you can make it. A messy room is a romance killer. Put on clean sheets. Arrange for soft music. Ladies - play up your part - if it is feminine: wear pearls, dress the part (no jeans or sweats - a dress or nice slacks with sexy underwear is just the thing). - if your part it is masculine: make a point of looking handsome (again, no jeans or sweats - a nice clean shirt or sweater and nice slacks... a jacket wouldn't hurt
8Forget about who is right and wrong in the relationship - Put all of those troubling thoughts out of your mind just for the evening - you'll find it easier and easier to do once you get started
9Surprise your partner - Something completely unexpected - chocolates, flowers, lingerie, a romantic game. I bought my partner a glass dildo. Now that was a surprise. It doesn't have to be expensive but it should be completely out of the norm.
10Think about what made you fall in love in the first place. There was something about your partner that made you pick them. That is still there. Remember it and make a point of appreciating it. It is very easy to fall into routines with our partners. Make a point of thinking about their specialness. Tell them about it. "You know, I love it when you --------- '
There are times when it is necessary to really shake things up in a relationship. You will know when the time is right for that sort of thing. Practicing the tips recommended here are good for any relationship, anytime... Try to start by putting yourself in your partners place. Imagine that you live with you... Would you be happy? Would you find it stimulating, rewarding and wonderful. If you can answer yes - Good for you! Now get real... Isn't there something you would want you to do a bit differently? Try to imagine what doing that one thing differently would mean to your relationship. Read through the following tips and really think about what doing them would mean to your spouse or partner. Could you do these things? Would it really be so hard? What would be the benefits? Are there really any negatives? Honestly? Just give it a try and let me know how it works for you.
Instructions:
1Learn to laugh with your partner - Find out what they think is funny - you probably knew at one time. Make a point to be light and upbeat. Suspend dark or disruptive thoughts. You may find that once you put them aside, they won't seem so important.
2Remember to Flirt.Flirt with your lover. Smile, Wink, Give massages, and touch for no reason. All of us humans are hardwired to want to be touched. Make sure your partner gets plenty of touching. Hold hands, rub feet, hug, and touch their arm when you speak with them. Give them your full attention. Laugh together. Make a point of smiling. Some of us are naturally more demonstrative than others but remember - this person is the one you picked to be the most important person in your life. Make sure they feel that way. You may think they know that you love them - Tell Them! (with a smile - let them know you are glad they are in your life).
3Go on regular dates - no kids - no business - no talk of kids, business, budgets, old troubles - Be on your best behavior. Practice good manners. Open doors, pull out chairs, say please and thank you. Talk about the game rules beforehand. You should both try to participate in a Date Evening. It may take a few tries to get it right. Do not give up. You both deserve to have special time together. This is one of the most important steps to refresh your relationship.
4Sexy lingerie can really spice up a relationship.Pay attention to grooming - shave, get a haircut, use plenty of lotion. It is easy to let some of those concerns go after you have been together for a while. Put cleanliness, smelling good, soft skin, fresh breath high on your list of priorities. Make an effort to impress your partner as you did when you were first together. Ladies think about wearing some sexy lingerie. Men (and ladies) think about giving your woman some lovely, provocative lingerie. It all helps to set the mood. Whether you chose something slinky or a bit kinky - like leather or vinyl - the stage is set for a wonderfully romantic event.
5Concentrate on pleasuring your partner. Spend a selfless evening on a regular basis. Schedule it and make it happen. Spend time putting their needs first. You will find you win in the end. Make a point of laughing at their jokes. When it is time to make love, lay them down and do all the things you would love to have someone do for you. Make sure they feel really good. For this one night, it is not about you. It is all about pleasing and pleasuring your lover.
6Practice Kindness. We slip into habits. Maybe we criticize or point out flaws. Remember what kindness feels like and spread it around. This is a good idea for much of life. Reach for that warm feeling you get when you feel kindly towards something or someone. You will find it is like a muscle - the more you work it the stronger it gets and the easier it is to use. The world would be a much better place if we all made a point of practicing a bit more kindness. Make a point of expecting the best of folks.
7 Dress for Success!Set the mood. For a romantic dinner - clean house. Make an attractive as well as a tasty meal. Light candles, Turn down the lights. Turn off the television. Dress up (maybe wear sexy underwear to reveal later). Consider flowers. For sex: make sure your bedroom is clean and as attractive as you can make it. A messy room is a romance killer. Put on clean sheets. Arrange for soft music. Ladies - play up your part - if it is feminine: wear pearls, dress the part (no jeans or sweats - a dress or nice slacks with sexy underwear is just the thing). - if your part it is masculine: make a point of looking handsome (again, no jeans or sweats - a nice clean shirt or sweater and nice slacks... a jacket wouldn't hurt
8Forget about who is right and wrong in the relationship - Put all of those troubling thoughts out of your mind just for the evening - you'll find it easier and easier to do once you get started
9Surprise your partner - Something completely unexpected - chocolates, flowers, lingerie, a romantic game. I bought my partner a glass dildo. Now that was a surprise. It doesn't have to be expensive but it should be completely out of the norm.
10Think about what made you fall in love in the first place. There was something about your partner that made you pick them. That is still there. Remember it and make a point of appreciating it. It is very easy to fall into routines with our partners. Make a point of thinking about their specialness. Tell them about it. "You know, I love it when you --------- '
Powerd by - eHow.com
2010-12-26
Sexual fantasy
Do you have sexual fantasies? Is sexual fantasy a fraud? Why do we have sexual fantasies? Are sexual fantasies reflect unsuccessful relationships?
Sexual fantasy is a very sensitive issue. The answers to the above questions are different. Some couples report that sexual fantasies enrich their sex lives, it brings a dose of intimacy, while other couples amounts to sexual fantasies typical for those couples who are dissatisfied with their sex lives, wakes up to a dose of jealousy and creates mistrust between couples.
Sexual fantasy
Fantasies by definition means "to dream awake." Fantasies are imagination, fantasy. They are part of human nature. Consider how much time they spend fantazirajući. The majority believes that the typical fantasy for children, and adults who resort to imagination are immature, immature, irresponsible, unable to cope with real life. This is of course a delusion. If we grew up, it does not mean you do not have the right to occasionally wake up the child within us. Loss or suppression of the child in us prevents a true pleasure, letting events, obliterates the spontaneity and ability to play.
Adults are entitled to fantasies and it does not mean that they are less responsible and frivolous. It just means that the path to adulthood have not lost the ability of spontaneity, the ability to truly enjoy the ability to be honest, the ability to be curious.
When talking about sexual fantasy then we talk about a wide range of personal taste. Many people believe that sexual fantasies reveal their true self, even at the very beginning fantasy feel uncomfortable and stayed with fantasies. Most often our fantasies related to events or things that we can not do in reality (eg, sex in public, sexual intercourse with a certain person, etc.). Fantasies precisely because the cause of sexual excitement, because they only work of fiction.
As already mentioned at the beginning of the text, some people think that fantasizing about a sexual relationship with a person is an act of fraud. Interpreted as the presence of relationship problems, sexual problems in relation to a lack of desire for a partner. In reality, this is rare. It has been shown that people who fantasize in happy romantic relationships, and most were satisfied with their sex lives.
On the other hand, the vast majority of couples, however noted that sexual fantasies bring a dose of news and freshness, particularly in long-term, stable relationships. Fantasies are often used in psihoseksualnoj therapy, and they help block the negative thoughts. For example, if, during sexual intercourse something distract and thereby reduce sexual arousal, then perform sexual fantasy aimed restore sexual arousal.
However, sexual fantasies are part of us and sharing them with your partner can sometimes cause problems. Some sexual fantasy partner can be interpreted as dissatisfaction with the existing sexual relationship, others develop jealousy. It is therefore important to know good partners and decide whether he / she is willing to accept the sexual fantasy, and that it does not impair the relationship and trust. Imagine what would happen if your partner would not have liked your sexual fantasies. It is therefore important to build trust and respect of partners, which should be the foundation of any relationship.
Studies have shown some differences in sexual fantasies among men and women.
Men's fantasies:
Sexual intercourse with an existing partner
Offering and giving oral sex
Dominance in a sexual relationship
Watching others in a sexual relationship
Nova poses in sex
Women's fantasies:
Sexual relations with existing partners
Nova poses in sex
Providing and receiving oral sex
Romantic / exotic locations
Feeling desirable
Sex with new partner
The introduction of prohibited sexual intercourse
From the above list, we can conclude that the men in his fantasies rather boring. It should be noted that research in the field of sexuality still bear trap data accuracy, because although they are usually anonymous survey, most are not saved or themselves admit certain things related to sexuality and sexual intercourse. Having sexual fantasies is quite a normal thing.
It's healthy sexuality and men's and women's sexual fantasies and rich water often to a better sex life partners. One of the great advantages of sexual fantasies is that you can try out exciting situation in reality if your main character in the fantasy your current partner. Another advantage is that the imagination can make love with a stranger, without adverse effects on the current connection.
The very sexual fantasies may be proof that sexual fantasy and reality try. Although there is no sufficient number of studies related to sexual fantasies, a research note that carried men two times more likely than women fantasize. In their fantasies are often some unknown beauty, while women's sexual fantasies, often by their partners in real life. Researchers draw the conclusion that women essential emotional component. We would not like to read this text, make the erroneous conclusion that women's fantasies are often "soft" content, while the men's "hard".
Men's fantasies are more visual content - focused on specific parts of the body, while women's fantasies more complex and unpredictable. Women's fantasies usually have their own story - beginning, plot, unexpected twist ending. New insights into women's fantasies suggest that fantasies involving submission of women in sexual intercourse less common in younger women, which explains the increase of sexual freedom. Expression of female sexuality is socially gained some acceptance, but it was a few decades, leading to a less exciting for women that men take responsibility for sexual events, and the woman is a passive participant.
Of course all of couples do not fantasize that does not mean the alarm. Instead of some fantasy resort recall some past sexual experiences and relationships. Therefore, the wealth of sexual fantasy does not guarantee a successful sexual relationship is not a guarantee for creativity in bed. Certainly in psychotherapeutic work with people who have problems with sexual desire or sexual arousal, sexual fantasies allow efficient solution to the problem.
Sexual fantasy is a very sensitive issue. The answers to the above questions are different. Some couples report that sexual fantasies enrich their sex lives, it brings a dose of intimacy, while other couples amounts to sexual fantasies typical for those couples who are dissatisfied with their sex lives, wakes up to a dose of jealousy and creates mistrust between couples.
Sexual fantasy
Fantasies by definition means "to dream awake." Fantasies are imagination, fantasy. They are part of human nature. Consider how much time they spend fantazirajući. The majority believes that the typical fantasy for children, and adults who resort to imagination are immature, immature, irresponsible, unable to cope with real life. This is of course a delusion. If we grew up, it does not mean you do not have the right to occasionally wake up the child within us. Loss or suppression of the child in us prevents a true pleasure, letting events, obliterates the spontaneity and ability to play.
Adults are entitled to fantasies and it does not mean that they are less responsible and frivolous. It just means that the path to adulthood have not lost the ability of spontaneity, the ability to truly enjoy the ability to be honest, the ability to be curious.
When talking about sexual fantasy then we talk about a wide range of personal taste. Many people believe that sexual fantasies reveal their true self, even at the very beginning fantasy feel uncomfortable and stayed with fantasies. Most often our fantasies related to events or things that we can not do in reality (eg, sex in public, sexual intercourse with a certain person, etc.). Fantasies precisely because the cause of sexual excitement, because they only work of fiction.
As already mentioned at the beginning of the text, some people think that fantasizing about a sexual relationship with a person is an act of fraud. Interpreted as the presence of relationship problems, sexual problems in relation to a lack of desire for a partner. In reality, this is rare. It has been shown that people who fantasize in happy romantic relationships, and most were satisfied with their sex lives.
On the other hand, the vast majority of couples, however noted that sexual fantasies bring a dose of news and freshness, particularly in long-term, stable relationships. Fantasies are often used in psihoseksualnoj therapy, and they help block the negative thoughts. For example, if, during sexual intercourse something distract and thereby reduce sexual arousal, then perform sexual fantasy aimed restore sexual arousal.
However, sexual fantasies are part of us and sharing them with your partner can sometimes cause problems. Some sexual fantasy partner can be interpreted as dissatisfaction with the existing sexual relationship, others develop jealousy. It is therefore important to know good partners and decide whether he / she is willing to accept the sexual fantasy, and that it does not impair the relationship and trust. Imagine what would happen if your partner would not have liked your sexual fantasies. It is therefore important to build trust and respect of partners, which should be the foundation of any relationship.
Studies have shown some differences in sexual fantasies among men and women.
Men's fantasies:
Sexual intercourse with an existing partner
Offering and giving oral sex
Dominance in a sexual relationship
Watching others in a sexual relationship
Nova poses in sex
Women's fantasies:
Sexual relations with existing partners
Nova poses in sex
Providing and receiving oral sex
Romantic / exotic locations
Feeling desirable
Sex with new partner
The introduction of prohibited sexual intercourse
From the above list, we can conclude that the men in his fantasies rather boring. It should be noted that research in the field of sexuality still bear trap data accuracy, because although they are usually anonymous survey, most are not saved or themselves admit certain things related to sexuality and sexual intercourse. Having sexual fantasies is quite a normal thing.
It's healthy sexuality and men's and women's sexual fantasies and rich water often to a better sex life partners. One of the great advantages of sexual fantasies is that you can try out exciting situation in reality if your main character in the fantasy your current partner. Another advantage is that the imagination can make love with a stranger, without adverse effects on the current connection.
The very sexual fantasies may be proof that sexual fantasy and reality try. Although there is no sufficient number of studies related to sexual fantasies, a research note that carried men two times more likely than women fantasize. In their fantasies are often some unknown beauty, while women's sexual fantasies, often by their partners in real life. Researchers draw the conclusion that women essential emotional component. We would not like to read this text, make the erroneous conclusion that women's fantasies are often "soft" content, while the men's "hard".
Men's fantasies are more visual content - focused on specific parts of the body, while women's fantasies more complex and unpredictable. Women's fantasies usually have their own story - beginning, plot, unexpected twist ending. New insights into women's fantasies suggest that fantasies involving submission of women in sexual intercourse less common in younger women, which explains the increase of sexual freedom. Expression of female sexuality is socially gained some acceptance, but it was a few decades, leading to a less exciting for women that men take responsibility for sexual events, and the woman is a passive participant.
Of course all of couples do not fantasize that does not mean the alarm. Instead of some fantasy resort recall some past sexual experiences and relationships. Therefore, the wealth of sexual fantasy does not guarantee a successful sexual relationship is not a guarantee for creativity in bed. Certainly in psychotherapeutic work with people who have problems with sexual desire or sexual arousal, sexual fantasies allow efficient solution to the problem.
2010-12-19
How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back
Believe me, if you want to get your guy back, you will have to act completely different from what your heart tells you to do.
So stop what you are doing for a moment. Try to control your emotions, and take a few minutes out of your time to read this.
Two the most powerful and popular psychological tricks can be found here The Magic Of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back) and
Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
I will just remind Three Ground Rules For Winning Your Boyfriend Back
Ground Rule One: Be strong!
However heartbroken you feel, trust me, your ex boyfriend is not going to want you back if you show him that you are miserable and/or needy.
You probably have the urge to let him know just how terrible you feel, and how much you miss him, so that he will feel.. ehm... Feel what? Pity..?
A guy doesn't fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You'd be amazed though, how many women try to use this "tactic" to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don't be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you will have to be confident and strong!
A Little Psychology To Help You To Be Strong
By now you may be thinking "OK Essy, easy for you to say, but I just feel terrible! How can I act confident when I feel as rotten as I do?"
Well of course acting confident can be difficult right now, because after a breakup your self esteem may hit a low point.
Try this little psychological exercise for a minute, it's really helpful:
• IMAGINE how it will be when you are back together with your boyfriend. Not like in a memory, but in the future.That part is very important.
• EXPERIENCE how it feels to be back together after you have been apart all this time.. Really feel his arms around you again..Feel his love in how tightly he holds you.. Hear the sweet things he whispers in your ear... How happy he is that he and you are together again.
Try to make this imagination as "real" as possible.
Now realize yourself (and make a mental note right now) that many couples get together after a breakup, every single day! This is not just a fantasy, you can achieve this goal if you put your mind to it!
People get back together after the most horrible breakups.. Even lots of people that shouldn't be together, still get a second (or third) chance.
Why? Well it's just a matter of biology and psychology.
• BIOLOGY: It's the chemistry between the two of you. If it "felt right" it probably was right, as far as mother nature is concerned.The two of you share a strong connection, so it is probable that you can make "good" babies together. And your (and his) body picks up on that.
• PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex's feelings like an instrument.
He is still tied to you biologically. You have been together, right? So this shows that he and you are a biological match. The problem you are facing right now is psychological, which means that you can overcome it with the right strategy.
I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! You just have to be strong and smart about it!
OK, I hope that by now you know that you do have a good chance to get your ex boyfriend back. You only need the right information on what you should do and should not do.
Ground Rule Two: Limit ContactOne area where you need to be very strict with yourself, is contact. Whatever you do, don't harass your ex. This will definitely drive him away from you.
Instinctively you want to call him, because you want things to get back to how they were between you two.
And to get back together, you first need to make contact, right? Right..?
Wrong! Please, in your heart you already know this.. Don't call him! After a guy breaks up with you, he will regard your repeated phone calls as "stalking" or "harassing" way sooner than you think!
And even more important: Since you are giving him confirmation that you still think about him, he will not feel any pain of missing you. This is definitely not helping to get him back! So whatever you do, don't call him (unless you have your plan to win him back all laid out)
If you have difficulty fighting the urge to call him, then try to keep your focus on your goal: Getting your boyfriend back in your arms! Try the psychological exercise that we did before. Like with most things in life, if you keep the end result in mind, it will just be so much easier!
Ground Rule Three: Find Other Things To Focus OnThis may not seem like much of a "get my boyfriend back" tactic, but believe me, it is actually a very powerful method!
If you can find a new hobby or activity to dedicate some of your attention to, you will have less time to miss your ex boyfriend.
Apart from that, you will regain the feeling that you are in control of your life, and experiencing new and interesting things.
Those two factors lead to something very valuable to your goal: You will have more self confidence (and that definitely shows) and your ex boyfriend will notice that you have "moved on" with your life, or at least that you are not suffering full time because he is gone.This works like a red rag on a bull for most guys!
Well so far the basics. I hope you have learned that acting on instinct is a very dangerous thing to do when you try to win your boyfriend back.
"I Broke All The Rules!"
If you have come to this point and think... Oh No! I broke all those rules and then some!
Don't dispair. It's human. Like I said, it's the natural urge after a breakup to do exactly the wrong things.
This doesn't mean the situation is hopeless - Far from it! You may need a bit more help to fix things, but you still have a big chance to turn this situation around.
It's up to you now if you want to continue flying blind, or take matters into your own hands and follow a structured plan to get your ex boyfriend back. You can, if you are committed.
For more success go:
The Magic Of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back) and
Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
So stop what you are doing for a moment. Try to control your emotions, and take a few minutes out of your time to read this.
Two the most powerful and popular psychological tricks can be found here The Magic Of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back) and
Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
I will just remind Three Ground Rules For Winning Your Boyfriend Back
Ground Rule One: Be strong!
However heartbroken you feel, trust me, your ex boyfriend is not going to want you back if you show him that you are miserable and/or needy.
You probably have the urge to let him know just how terrible you feel, and how much you miss him, so that he will feel.. ehm... Feel what? Pity..?
A guy doesn't fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You'd be amazed though, how many women try to use this "tactic" to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don't be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you will have to be confident and strong!
A Little Psychology To Help You To Be Strong
By now you may be thinking "OK Essy, easy for you to say, but I just feel terrible! How can I act confident when I feel as rotten as I do?"
Well of course acting confident can be difficult right now, because after a breakup your self esteem may hit a low point.
Try this little psychological exercise for a minute, it's really helpful:
• IMAGINE how it will be when you are back together with your boyfriend. Not like in a memory, but in the future.That part is very important.
• EXPERIENCE how it feels to be back together after you have been apart all this time.. Really feel his arms around you again..Feel his love in how tightly he holds you.. Hear the sweet things he whispers in your ear... How happy he is that he and you are together again.
Try to make this imagination as "real" as possible.
Now realize yourself (and make a mental note right now) that many couples get together after a breakup, every single day! This is not just a fantasy, you can achieve this goal if you put your mind to it!
People get back together after the most horrible breakups.. Even lots of people that shouldn't be together, still get a second (or third) chance.
Why? Well it's just a matter of biology and psychology.
• BIOLOGY: It's the chemistry between the two of you. If it "felt right" it probably was right, as far as mother nature is concerned.The two of you share a strong connection, so it is probable that you can make "good" babies together. And your (and his) body picks up on that.
• PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex's feelings like an instrument.
He is still tied to you biologically. You have been together, right? So this shows that he and you are a biological match. The problem you are facing right now is psychological, which means that you can overcome it with the right strategy.
I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! You just have to be strong and smart about it!
OK, I hope that by now you know that you do have a good chance to get your ex boyfriend back. You only need the right information on what you should do and should not do.
Ground Rule Two: Limit ContactOne area where you need to be very strict with yourself, is contact. Whatever you do, don't harass your ex. This will definitely drive him away from you.
Instinctively you want to call him, because you want things to get back to how they were between you two.
And to get back together, you first need to make contact, right? Right..?
Wrong! Please, in your heart you already know this.. Don't call him! After a guy breaks up with you, he will regard your repeated phone calls as "stalking" or "harassing" way sooner than you think!
And even more important: Since you are giving him confirmation that you still think about him, he will not feel any pain of missing you. This is definitely not helping to get him back! So whatever you do, don't call him (unless you have your plan to win him back all laid out)
If you have difficulty fighting the urge to call him, then try to keep your focus on your goal: Getting your boyfriend back in your arms! Try the psychological exercise that we did before. Like with most things in life, if you keep the end result in mind, it will just be so much easier!
Ground Rule Three: Find Other Things To Focus OnThis may not seem like much of a "get my boyfriend back" tactic, but believe me, it is actually a very powerful method!
If you can find a new hobby or activity to dedicate some of your attention to, you will have less time to miss your ex boyfriend.
Apart from that, you will regain the feeling that you are in control of your life, and experiencing new and interesting things.
Those two factors lead to something very valuable to your goal: You will have more self confidence (and that definitely shows) and your ex boyfriend will notice that you have "moved on" with your life, or at least that you are not suffering full time because he is gone.This works like a red rag on a bull for most guys!
Well so far the basics. I hope you have learned that acting on instinct is a very dangerous thing to do when you try to win your boyfriend back.
"I Broke All The Rules!"
If you have come to this point and think... Oh No! I broke all those rules and then some!
Don't dispair. It's human. Like I said, it's the natural urge after a breakup to do exactly the wrong things.
This doesn't mean the situation is hopeless - Far from it! You may need a bit more help to fix things, but you still have a big chance to turn this situation around.
It's up to you now if you want to continue flying blind, or take matters into your own hands and follow a structured plan to get your ex boyfriend back. You can, if you are committed.
For more success go:
The Magic Of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back) and
Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
2010-12-08
Sex in Relationship
In this post I will tell something about improving the sex in relationships.
For those couples out there who enjoy the more adventurous side of intimacy, indulging in a little “video voyeurism” together is another great way to turn up the heat in your love life at home. Watching pornographic videos is actually a form of voyeurism which is defined as: the practice of obtaining sexual gratification by looking at sexual objects or watching sexual acts of others, often secretively. However, it is very common for nearly anyone to become aroused by watching others engaging in sexual acts whether or not they like to admit it.
Watching pornographic videos together is one way to spice things up in the immediate sense. In addition, watching pornography together can also help couples discover new and exciting things to try in the bedroom. For those who are a little shy when it comes to openly talking about the subject of sex, watching porn together can also help to open a dialogue by saying, “Hey, that that might be fun” or “Let’s try that sometime”.
A highly popular choice of many couples is an array of adult sex education movies available. These videos, although explicit, are usually more “tastefully sexy” and appeal to a wider audience of both men and women alike. One such adult sex collection is 100 Great Sex Games For Couples by Michael Webb, Oprah Love Expert. This particular series shows real couples as well as sexuality experts that guide you on an erotic journey to enhanced intimacy. Videos like these often teach advanced sexual positions for greater orgasms and provide numerous sexual secrets to improve the sexual pleasure of couples.
For those couples out there who enjoy the more adventurous side of intimacy, indulging in a little “video voyeurism” together is another great way to turn up the heat in your love life at home. Watching pornographic videos is actually a form of voyeurism which is defined as: the practice of obtaining sexual gratification by looking at sexual objects or watching sexual acts of others, often secretively. However, it is very common for nearly anyone to become aroused by watching others engaging in sexual acts whether or not they like to admit it.
Watching pornographic videos together is one way to spice things up in the immediate sense. In addition, watching pornography together can also help couples discover new and exciting things to try in the bedroom. For those who are a little shy when it comes to openly talking about the subject of sex, watching porn together can also help to open a dialogue by saying, “Hey, that that might be fun” or “Let’s try that sometime”.
A highly popular choice of many couples is an array of adult sex education movies available. These videos, although explicit, are usually more “tastefully sexy” and appeal to a wider audience of both men and women alike. One such adult sex collection is 100 Great Sex Games For Couples by Michael Webb, Oprah Love Expert. This particular series shows real couples as well as sexuality experts that guide you on an erotic journey to enhanced intimacy. Videos like these often teach advanced sexual positions for greater orgasms and provide numerous sexual secrets to improve the sexual pleasure of couples.
2010-12-07
What is Sexology?
In this post I will explain briefly what is sexology, so you get a glimpse of what it is.
Sexology is the study of human sexuality in its many aspects. There are presently three fields of professional practice in sexology: research, sexual education and clinical practice.
Sexology is studied at the university level, but the modalities within which it is studied vary depending upon the countries. In some European countries, it is necessary to be a physician doctor first in order to be a sexologist. In United States, a professional (for ex a psychiatrist, a psychologist, an anthropologist) who is specialized in the field of human sexuality can be recognized as a sexologist.
It is important to highlight the fact that the only university in the word to offer a bachelor’s degree and a master’s degree in sexology is found in the province of Quebec. This university is l’Université du Québec à Montréal. Thus, to be recognized as a sexologist in this province, it is necessary to possess a bachelor’s degree in sexology.
With this bachelor’s degree, a person can work in the field of sexual education, either in creating programs that are adapted to the needs of people who will receive the formation or in intervening individually with people served by public or community organisms. Moreover, a certain number of sexologists educators will also get a master's degree in sexual education in order to deepen the knowledge acquired in their undergraduate studies.
However, to be a clinical sexologist, it is necessary to get a master's degree in sexology counseling. Being specialized in the field of sexual difficulties, clinical sexologists are the professionals that are the most qualified to help people with their sexual problems. Most often, clinical sexologists receive people individually or in couple. In some cases, group therapies can also be offered for people who encounter a similar type of difficulty. There exist different sex therapy approaches and, quite often, each clinical sexologist specializes himself or herself within one or a few of these approaches.
Some of the famous sexologists’ are—
Theodor Hendrik van de Velde
Havelock Ellis
Milton Diamond
Ernest Bornemann
Kurt Freund
Anne Fausto-Sterling
Oswalt Kolle
Alfred Kinsey
The most important thing to know is that now, in modern times, there is no reason to keep quite or be ashamed of problems linked to sexuality. A bad or dysfunctional sex life is something very frustrating to both partners and sometimes it may cloud a relationship to a point of no return. Today there are many advances in the field of sexology. It is not a dirty little secret anymore. Today, the world is smaller, people worldwide suffer from basically the same things in the field of sexual problem, after all we all still mate in the same way. Problems like sexual addiction can be cured by therapy. Fetishes such as S&M are no longer considered abnormal and are encouraged to be fully explored. Its' a much wider and more open world out there, there is no need to suffer, be open as well and seek help.
Sexology is the study of human sexuality in its many aspects. There are presently three fields of professional practice in sexology: research, sexual education and clinical practice.
Sexology is studied at the university level, but the modalities within which it is studied vary depending upon the countries. In some European countries, it is necessary to be a physician doctor first in order to be a sexologist. In United States, a professional (for ex a psychiatrist, a psychologist, an anthropologist) who is specialized in the field of human sexuality can be recognized as a sexologist.
It is important to highlight the fact that the only university in the word to offer a bachelor’s degree and a master’s degree in sexology is found in the province of Quebec. This university is l’Université du Québec à Montréal. Thus, to be recognized as a sexologist in this province, it is necessary to possess a bachelor’s degree in sexology.
With this bachelor’s degree, a person can work in the field of sexual education, either in creating programs that are adapted to the needs of people who will receive the formation or in intervening individually with people served by public or community organisms. Moreover, a certain number of sexologists educators will also get a master's degree in sexual education in order to deepen the knowledge acquired in their undergraduate studies.
However, to be a clinical sexologist, it is necessary to get a master's degree in sexology counseling. Being specialized in the field of sexual difficulties, clinical sexologists are the professionals that are the most qualified to help people with their sexual problems. Most often, clinical sexologists receive people individually or in couple. In some cases, group therapies can also be offered for people who encounter a similar type of difficulty. There exist different sex therapy approaches and, quite often, each clinical sexologist specializes himself or herself within one or a few of these approaches.
Some of the famous sexologists’ are—
Theodor Hendrik van de Velde
Havelock Ellis
Milton Diamond
Ernest Bornemann
Kurt Freund
Anne Fausto-Sterling
Oswalt Kolle
Alfred Kinsey
The most important thing to know is that now, in modern times, there is no reason to keep quite or be ashamed of problems linked to sexuality. A bad or dysfunctional sex life is something very frustrating to both partners and sometimes it may cloud a relationship to a point of no return. Today there are many advances in the field of sexology. It is not a dirty little secret anymore. Today, the world is smaller, people worldwide suffer from basically the same things in the field of sexual problem, after all we all still mate in the same way. Problems like sexual addiction can be cured by therapy. Fetishes such as S&M are no longer considered abnormal and are encouraged to be fully explored. Its' a much wider and more open world out there, there is no need to suffer, be open as well and seek help.
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