Do you have sexual fantasies? Is sexual fantasy a fraud? Why do we have sexual fantasies? Are sexual fantasies reflect unsuccessful relationships?
Sexual fantasy is a very sensitive issue. The answers to the above questions are different. Some couples report that sexual fantasies enrich their sex lives, it brings a dose of intimacy, while other couples amounts to sexual fantasies typical for those couples who are dissatisfied with their sex lives, wakes up to a dose of jealousy and creates mistrust between couples.
Sexual fantasy
Fantasies by definition means "to dream awake." Fantasies are imagination, fantasy. They are part of human nature. Consider how much time they spend fantazirajući. The majority believes that the typical fantasy for children, and adults who resort to imagination are immature, immature, irresponsible, unable to cope with real life. This is of course a delusion. If we grew up, it does not mean you do not have the right to occasionally wake up the child within us. Loss or suppression of the child in us prevents a true pleasure, letting events, obliterates the spontaneity and ability to play.
Adults are entitled to fantasies and it does not mean that they are less responsible and frivolous. It just means that the path to adulthood have not lost the ability of spontaneity, the ability to truly enjoy the ability to be honest, the ability to be curious.
When talking about sexual fantasy then we talk about a wide range of personal taste. Many people believe that sexual fantasies reveal their true self, even at the very beginning fantasy feel uncomfortable and stayed with fantasies. Most often our fantasies related to events or things that we can not do in reality (eg, sex in public, sexual intercourse with a certain person, etc.). Fantasies precisely because the cause of sexual excitement, because they only work of fiction.
As already mentioned at the beginning of the text, some people think that fantasizing about a sexual relationship with a person is an act of fraud. Interpreted as the presence of relationship problems, sexual problems in relation to a lack of desire for a partner. In reality, this is rare. It has been shown that people who fantasize in happy romantic relationships, and most were satisfied with their sex lives.
On the other hand, the vast majority of couples, however noted that sexual fantasies bring a dose of news and freshness, particularly in long-term, stable relationships. Fantasies are often used in psihoseksualnoj therapy, and they help block the negative thoughts. For example, if, during sexual intercourse something distract and thereby reduce sexual arousal, then perform sexual fantasy aimed restore sexual arousal.
However, sexual fantasies are part of us and sharing them with your partner can sometimes cause problems. Some sexual fantasy partner can be interpreted as dissatisfaction with the existing sexual relationship, others develop jealousy. It is therefore important to know good partners and decide whether he / she is willing to accept the sexual fantasy, and that it does not impair the relationship and trust. Imagine what would happen if your partner would not have liked your sexual fantasies. It is therefore important to build trust and respect of partners, which should be the foundation of any relationship.
Studies have shown some differences in sexual fantasies among men and women.
Men's fantasies:
Sexual intercourse with an existing partner
Offering and giving oral sex
Dominance in a sexual relationship
Watching others in a sexual relationship
Nova poses in sex
Women's fantasies:
Sexual relations with existing partners
Nova poses in sex
Providing and receiving oral sex
Romantic / exotic locations
Feeling desirable
Sex with new partner
The introduction of prohibited sexual intercourse
From the above list, we can conclude that the men in his fantasies rather boring. It should be noted that research in the field of sexuality still bear trap data accuracy, because although they are usually anonymous survey, most are not saved or themselves admit certain things related to sexuality and sexual intercourse. Having sexual fantasies is quite a normal thing.
It's healthy sexuality and men's and women's sexual fantasies and rich water often to a better sex life partners. One of the great advantages of sexual fantasies is that you can try out exciting situation in reality if your main character in the fantasy your current partner. Another advantage is that the imagination can make love with a stranger, without adverse effects on the current connection.
The very sexual fantasies may be proof that sexual fantasy and reality try. Although there is no sufficient number of studies related to sexual fantasies, a research note that carried men two times more likely than women fantasize. In their fantasies are often some unknown beauty, while women's sexual fantasies, often by their partners in real life. Researchers draw the conclusion that women essential emotional component. We would not like to read this text, make the erroneous conclusion that women's fantasies are often "soft" content, while the men's "hard".
Men's fantasies are more visual content - focused on specific parts of the body, while women's fantasies more complex and unpredictable. Women's fantasies usually have their own story - beginning, plot, unexpected twist ending. New insights into women's fantasies suggest that fantasies involving submission of women in sexual intercourse less common in younger women, which explains the increase of sexual freedom. Expression of female sexuality is socially gained some acceptance, but it was a few decades, leading to a less exciting for women that men take responsibility for sexual events, and the woman is a passive participant.
Of course all of couples do not fantasize that does not mean the alarm. Instead of some fantasy resort recall some past sexual experiences and relationships. Therefore, the wealth of sexual fantasy does not guarantee a successful sexual relationship is not a guarantee for creativity in bed. Certainly in psychotherapeutic work with people who have problems with sexual desire or sexual arousal, sexual fantasies allow efficient solution to the problem.
